And still after fourteen years of many more valley of the shadow moments than mountaintop experiences, I would do it all again. I would love him fiercely without reservation and I would take the ups and downs of life with him by my side because I know he loves me and I him. I am so grateful for this man of mine and so honored that he still desires to call me his wife. I do love him so. I used to sing Terri Clark’s song wishing for the day when I had someone to love “Just the Same.”.